you shouldn't subject your kid to someone who have no idea if they'll be around next month. that's just poor parenting.
I kind of agree with this.. I briefly dated a girl that had two kids (I didn't know she had them until a few weeks into things). I went over one day and met them, and to be honest, it was pretty awkward. The kids loved me, but things with the mother were still pretty new. I never went back because things between us didn't work out but she told me that the kids would ask about me. Must've been confusing for them.
I disagree. My dad dated various women after the divorce, I met a bunch of them. I never cared at all, didn't bother me one bit. Same with my mom.
If you're a kid and can't handle the fact that your parents want to and will date, then you need to toughen up.
And i have to disagree there. My parents also dated people as I grew up. The problem arises when these partners are introduced too early into the relationship, bond with the child, and are then out of their life. A revolving door of people the child gets to know and care about and never see again. that's hard on children having what are essentially parental figures ripped from their lives over and over. No kid needs to "toughen up" over that.
Then there's the flip side of letting these partners spend time unsupervised when they should not be around children, causing issues, and shitty parents that value dating over the safety and stability of their children.
The relationship should be pretty solid before meeting the kids. and it should be a gradual introduction.
Any kid who naturally lets these random people that their parents are DATING (not marrying) become close to them and seen as "parent" figures is seriously weak minded and stupid. And "ripped from their lives"? Are you serious? That's incredibly melodramatic. None of my dad's exes were "ripped from my life" and caused me to go into depression or something.
I knew who my natural parents were and they were the only 2 parental figures I needed. Why the hell would I get a 3rd "parent" telling me what to do? LOL. ---
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