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Jen0125 posted...

don't you think you should spend at least a little time mourning your wife?

it just strikes me as so weird that you're already trying to date.

I'm still sad about it and miss her sometimes, but I was her caregiver for a decade, and while I miss her, it wasn't a romantic relationship for a very long time. She was also out of it for much of the last 6 months before she passed (not even able to communicate).

I think my roomate is being very tentative as well because of similar reasons. It is still hard not to have someone in my life that I know/knows me as well as me and my wife knew each other. Things like the show Brain Dead being canceled still make me think about her (we loved that show), or watching Guardians of the Galaxy 2 (she was so looking forward to that) movie.

That being said, it's really been 7 months since she was home and healthy etc. That may not seem like along time, but It's also been almost 2 years since my family went from 4 (my best friend/his wife/linda) to just Linda and me. Basically went from having a full family I took care of, to just me about 7 months ago, which is a huge change.

I've gotten used to it, but I would really like to have someone that I share my life with, do things with, I want to travel etc (now that I can) but want to do that with someone else.

I already have the homebody stuff down with my roomate, we mesh well, enjoy watching shows together, take care of her daughter well together etc. We eat dinner often etc. It makes sense to me that we take the next step and see if we are compatible in other ways as well. If so, we could both be much happier I think.
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