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Mead posted...

The way I see it, shortly after dating her she will probably stop being a roommate and start being a live in girlfriend, at which point she could decide to stop paying rent and it would be pretty hard to get rid of her if things didn't work out

It seems risky. I know you tried craigslist from what you posted a while back, have you tried any of the dating sites?

I thought about this some, but here is the thing.

I have 2 bedrooms upstairs I'm just using as storage, along with another bathroom. She is renting the whole downstairs right now.

If she did become a girlfriend and we actually shared my bedroom, I would probably eventually talk to her about just moving upstairs with me (using one of the other bedrooms for her daughter), and then I would rent out the downstairs again, to someone else.

So it's not really a loss at all. I totally trust that she would help with expenses etc (She already does while paying rent and half utilities). She has a Goverment job so she is not hurting for money etc. Hardest time she had finacially was a month or so ago when she had to get her car fixed etc (I lent her a small amount of money, which she has already paid back), and she has even offered extra money I never asked for to help pay for groceries etc.

So I don't see a real negative here at all, I'm totally fine with her moving up here with me eventually, and if that happens we can just rent the downstairs to someone else (it's basically a full apartment).

I did try Plenty of Fish, and yes, I could try dating someone who does not live here, but....we do get along great, I really like her daughter, and it's like most of the dating parts (Getting to know someone, seeing if you mesh well etc) have already been done.

Still a bit on the fence here, not about wanting to spend more time with her/have a relationship, but if this is a good idea since we live together etc. Don't want to mess up what we already have (which is working great), but I can see the potential for much more, which would be a real shame to miss out on because I didn't want to take a chance.
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