From: Theon_Greyjoy | #041
It is pretty weird to date someone that much older though. I'm 25 and used to sleep with a 45 year old (she was pretty hot seriously) but I would never date her because of the age difference
People also thought it was weird for two guys to date...times change though.
From: Westbrick | #043
So do I need to be the ass who spells it out for this guy? Fine; I can play the villain.
Older single women are extremely desperate. They feel the pressures of their fading looks, and fear being alone more than anything else; many others want to make sure they have a kid before it's too late. That your woman is a "people pleaser" only confirms that she likely fits this role, so I'm sure your parents are worried that this girl cares less about you and more about filling the husband role in her life. Then there's the fact that you're in your twenties, and twenty-year-olds frequently get overly passionate about things. They're also notoriously susceptible to making dumb life decisions. If things were to go awry and a divorce became a possibility, you'd be killing yourself financially and would be investing the best years of your life in a doomed relationship. And even if a best-case scenario played out and everything worked out, the cold truth is that you'll be alone again when you're 60-70.
Maybe you're okay with all of this. And maybe you see your father as a "psychopath." But dissolving the relationship with your parents because they have legitimate concerns about your future is beyond immature.
A few things:
1. She is very much not like the type of women you are describing. I have no actual way to prove this...but literally anyone who knows her would never in a million years fit her into the mold you just described. Everyone knows her to be the people pleasing type, the super sweet girl, and the type who is happy with the way things are regardless. Again, I have no way to prove it to you, but anyone who knows her already knows she is/never will be like what you just described so that's just out the window right there.
2. Girls usually live around 10 years longer than men...then add in the fact that no male in my family has ever lived beyond 75 (due to medical reasons) and we have an extreme likelihood of passing away around a similar time. So that's not much of a concern either.
3. I suspect you didn't read any of that post I referred you to. You are discussing a topic you just don't have a clue in the world about with my father. I already gave some smaller examples of it. No one thinks my dad's behavior is acceptable, my mother included. But as she always says, she's is afraid he'll yell at her if she says anything. You just shouldn't really open your mouth about topics you aren't familiar with. The guy has done nothing for me in any matter that doesn't relate to financials. Unless going to him for help and receiving immature cursing, screams, threats regarding his Will, telling me he won't help me or that I have 10 seconds to talk, etc, is deemed to be "doing something for me."