So do I need to be the ass who spells it out for this guy? Fine; I can play the villain.
Older single women are extremely desperate. They feel the pressures of their fading looks, and fear being alone more than anything else; many others want to make sure they have a kid before it's too late. That your woman is a "people pleaser" only confirms that she likely fits this role, so I'm sure your parents are worried that this girl cares less about you and more about filling the husband role in her life. Then there's the fact that you're in your twenties, and twenty-year-olds frequently get overly passionate about things. They're also notoriously susceptible to making dumb life decisions. If things were to go awry and a divorce became a possibility, you'd be killing yourself financially and would be investing the best years of your life in a doomed relationship. And even if a best-case scenario played out and everything worked out, the cold truth is that you'll be alone again when you're 60-70.
Maybe you're okay with all of this. And maybe you see your father as a "psychopath." But dissolving the relationship with your parents because they have legitimate concerns about your future is beyond immature.
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World Peace, ONE NIGHT ONLY
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