From: Westbrick | #028
The only way I can imagine your parents would "disapprove" of an older girl is if things were getting serious between the two of you, in which case your parents might have a point. A 15-year gap isn't something to take lightly when choosing a life partner.
Things are serious between us, and neither of us took it lightly. A lot of thought was put into it.
From: Dark Young Link | #029
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It's from a lack of support beyond money. He was pretty much the reason I became depressed during high school. Nothing I did was good enough for him, any problem I had was dismissed as an "excuse", most of the words that's came out of his mouth has basically demoralized me. The past year or so he's chosen to just be annoying as hell though. Then there's the whole....thing....about the family business that pisses me off to no end.
Hell even with his paycheck he brings in it's become more and more apparent he cares more about his drinking habit than anything else. He's not respectable, he's never bothered showing me any respect even when I still used to show him it, and I just find myself unable to find a reason why I should "care" for him besides the fact he's my father.
Bad/Whiny as all that may sound...
I've had very similar issues minus the family business and alcohol parts. But yeah...zero respect, no support in any way other than money, and demoralizing me. In the last 5 years, anytime I came to him with any problem he would just curse me off and then walk away or hang up on me. I'd say stuff like "how about being a father and helping me"...but he'd just curse me off or say things like "you have 30 seconds to talk...start now" or "I'm not helping you anymore" or anything else unhelpful. Being a father means more than just bringing home a paycheck. He thinks because he supported me, he has a free pass to take a dump on me whenever. The fact is he chose to have kids and chose to take on the responsibility of supporting us in all respects. Paying for us doesn't make him a great father, it just means he followed through with ONE of the responsibilities he chose to take on when he had children. Yes...some parents don't support the kids financially...some also beat or molest their kids. Those are bad parents. Just because he did his financial job of supporting me, doesn't mean he did me some huge favor...he just followed through with the responsibility he chose to take on. And then he failed in supporting me emotionally or in any other way...but it's cool to him since he paid the bills so that's the only thing that matters.