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Topic	Poll: What should I do about bad behavior from a homeless friend I'm helping?
SableWolfAngel 11/13/21 1:50:07 AM #40:	MrDrMan posted... Ok so you let him stay with you to feign superiority as I thought. Thats fine but dont act like youre doing him a favor You didnt have the foresight to anticipate your current situation so how are you any better? Getting a key copied cost not even $5. If you didnt trust him you shouldnt have allowed him to stay. Getting woken up is a minor inconvenience. The roles are equal. Hes been there a week and you act like youre saving his life. Get over yourself. Youre complaining about him asking for a ride as if your boyfriend is simply incapable of being an adult and saying no. I dont know why you offered to help him when you clearly dont want to. So letting him live in a house versus living in the cold in his car isn't doing him a favor? How does that make any god damn sense in any way? Having foresight for something obvious is way different than trying to predict the idiosyncrasies of a person you've never lived with before. Anyone with a brain can tell you to make arrangements to get to work ahead of time when your car is in the shop, but no one can predict how someone conducts themselves at home. Two entirely separate concepts. I also don't want him to feel <i>too</i> comfortable. He needs to have some motivation for moving out and not being able to stay here when no one's home, not having his own furniture, and not being able to keep his own schedule should push him in the right direction. I don't want him to feel like he doesn't have to leave, I want him to feel like leaving is the goal. And it doesn't matter if getting woken up is an inconvenience. I don't want it happening so I won't let it. Lemme come to your place and run a lawnmower at four in the morning and let's see how minor the inconvenience is to you, bucko. How are the roles equal? He's not paying to live here, he doesn't do chores, he's not a permanent resident. And he's been here three weeks now, not just one. I'd say that's saving plenty. Where I live, freezing temperatures at night have started. Go try it if you're so tough. It's not about capability, it's about respect. If that's your logic, could you lend me some money? Or let me borrow a game system? I don't know you very well, but I could always use money and entertainment. You can say no I guess since I assume you're also a responsible adult. "Helping" isn't the same as "enabling". --- http://www.backloggery.com/SableWolfAngel https://imgur.com/At3Hcq5 \| https://imgur.com/F1pWSAm <cite>SableWolfAngel posted [p:959954636] in Poll: What... [t:79740762]...</cite> <quote>MrDrMan posted... </cite> <quote>Ok so you let him stay with you to feign superiority as I thought. Thats fine but dont act like youre doing him a favor You didnt have the foresight to anticipate your current situation so how are you any better? Getting a key copied cost not even $5. If you didnt trust him you shouldnt have allowed him to stay. Getting woken up is a minor inconvenience. The roles are equal. Hes been there a week and you act like youre saving his life. Get over yourself. Youre complaining about him asking for a ride as if your boyfriend is simply incapable of being an adult and saying no. I dont know why you offered to help him when you clearly dont want to.</quote>So letting him live in a house versus living in the cold in his car isn't doing him a favor? How does that make any god damn sense in any way? Having foresight for something obvious is way different than trying to predict the idiosyncrasies of a person you've never lived with before. Anyone with a brain can tell you to make arrangements to get to work ahead of time when your car is in the shop, but no one can predict how someone conducts themselves at home. Two entirely separate concepts. I also don't want him to feel <i>too</i> comfortable. He needs to have some motivation for moving out and not being able to stay here when no one's home, not having his own furniture, and not being able to keep his own schedule should push him in the right direction. I don't want him to feel like he doesn't have to leave, I want him to feel like leaving is the goal. And it doesn't matter if getting woken up is an inconvenience. I don't want it happening so I won't let it. Lemme come to your place and run a lawnmower at four in the morning and let's see how minor the inconvenience is to you, bucko. How are the roles equal? He's not paying to live here, he doesn't do chores, he's not a permanent resident. And he's been here three weeks now, not just one. I'd say that's saving plenty. Where I live, freezing temperatures at night have started. Go try it if you're so tough. It's not about capability, it's about respect. If that's your logic, could you lend me some money? Or let me borrow a game system? I don't know you very well, but I could always use money and entertainment. You can say no I guess since I assume you're also a responsible adult. "Helping" isn't the same as "enabling". --- http://www.backloggery.com/SableWolfAngel https://imgur.com/At3Hcq5 \| https://imgur.com/F1pWSAm</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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