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Topic	Should a trans person be upfront about being trans before sleeping with someone?
godogod 10/28/21 6:24:31 AM #479:	hockeybub89 posted... Not sharing personal details with complete strangers is nutty now? Seems pretty ableist. Really just ignorant, because you don't need to have some sort of condition to not get so personal the first time you meet someone. Also, the majority is wrong all the fucking time. Have you ever met a human being or read about their history? I would never tell someone I just met jack shit. They gotta earn that. What? Everybody should absolutely know who they are dating. Sexual identity and preference should be shared from the get go, otherwise it's deceptive and a waste of time for both parties. We're talking about dating here, and it's personal. It's absolutely fucking common sense that it matters to people while dating. And relationships are built on trust. You lie about something big like that, they can't trust you with anything else and it's over. You can't justify being deceptive because you are insecure and fear of being accepted because you have a smaller dating pool. Just grow a pair and own it. Have confidence that you are a trans and let people know, and come to terms with the fact that the world may see you differently than biological women, and it might be a deal breaker to many. But so what? That just means you will be closer to finding a partner that is more compatible to you. Be honest with yourself about this. and nobody is saying you should share everything on a first date. You just need to use your brain for what things should be disclosed on what date. Nobody needs to know your medical history on a first date for example. Most CE posters here are fairly liberal, intelligent and decent people here. 90% of people voting yes on this poll aren't trolls. It's just common courtesy and for safety as well. Just grt the hell out of your bubble and acknowledge that society outside of these threads and offline think so as well if you really wanna hide that you are trans and not bring it up until it gets serious, that's on you. You won't get into a serious longterm relationship and you will end up with more heart break and people resenting you. I also sincerely hope you don't get hurt. --- There is something good in all seeming failures. You are not to see that now. Time will reveal it. Be patient. <cite>godogod posted [p:959464626] in Should a t... [t:79731008]...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted... </cite> <quote>Not sharing personal details with complete strangers is nutty now? Seems pretty ableist. Really just ignorant, because you don't need to have some sort of condition to not get so personal the first time you meet someone. Also, the majority is wrong all the fucking time. Have you ever met a human being or read about their history? I would never tell someone I just met jack shit. They gotta earn that.</quote>What? Everybody should absolutely know who they are dating. Sexual identity and preference should be shared from the get go, otherwise it's deceptive and a waste of time for both parties. We're talking about dating here, and it's personal. It's absolutely fucking common sense that it matters to people while dating. And relationships are built on trust. You lie about something big like that, they can't trust you with anything else and it's over. You can't justify being deceptive because you are insecure and fear of being accepted because you have a smaller dating pool. Just grow a pair and own it. Have confidence that you are a trans and let people know, and come to terms with the fact that the world may see you differently than biological women, and it might be a deal breaker to many. But so what? That just means you will be closer to finding a partner that is more compatible to you. Be honest with yourself about this. and nobody is saying you should share everything on a first date. You just need to use your brain for what things should be disclosed on what date. Nobody needs to know your medical history on a first date for example. Most CE posters here are fairly liberal, intelligent and decent people here. 90% of people voting yes on this poll aren't trolls. It's just common courtesy and for safety as well. Just grt the hell out of your bubble and acknowledge that society outside of these threads and offline think so as well if you really wanna hide that you are trans and not bring it up until it gets serious, that's on you. You won't get into a serious longterm relationship and you will end up with more heart break and people resenting you. I also sincerely hope you don't get hurt. --- There is something good in all seeming failures. You are not to see that now. Time will reveal it. Be patient.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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