My issue with that is that I simply don't hit on anyone. I'll never flirt with a cashier because I know they just want to get to the next customer, who is also waiting their turn. When I was a cashier I hated it when people stood there and talked to me when there were others waiting in line, so I just say my quick, "hello, how are you? Good, yeah, I'm good too. Thanks, have a good day." Also kind of BS to put them on the spot like that on their job, imo
I'll never flirt with someone in a store, or walking on the street, or in a park because to me it just comes off as creepy, and I never know what to say. Also, I don't really like it when strangers come up to me and start talking, so I don't do it to others.
I'll never flirt with someone at a bar because I don't drink, and if they're drinking, it would make me seem like a creep to hit on them.
My issue is that I treat everyone I'm attracted to exactly the same as pretty much everyone else I interact with.
i hear you man, i'm in a similar boat. i also do not drink and all activities i love are male dominated
cold approaching people on the street and at parks probably isnt gonna get you very far, because those are not usually places people go to meet new and strange people.
have you thought about going to a bar and just not drink? all bars are legally required to carry nonalcoholic beverages.
also, have there been situations where you and a woman were talking and you carried on a conversation with them? if they're single, maybe you could have done something with that
i have 2 examples
i was at pet store looking for shit for a cat i found on the street. i didn't know what i was doing, so a woman that worked there started helping me. she was very talkative, and i could tell she was genuinely trying to help me as a person and not just as a customer. as someone who used to work in a call center, i thought she did a really nice job, and she seemed cool. so at the cash register i decided to say "if you're not doing anything this weekend, maybe we can meet up". she ignored what i said, so i assumed she wasn't interested. but when i got home i noticed she friend requested me on facebook.
i'm a security guard, and this one woman who is a friend of a tenant was talking my ear off. at first i was annoyed, but i started to realize she was actually pretty cool. the conversation went to a pretty deep level, talking about past relationships, what we want in life, etc. so i decided to ask her out. unfortunately we never did go on a date, and i don't think she was interested, but at least i tried. better than regretting it.
so im actually pretty bad with relationships tbh so this is the best i have.