I still feel like you shouldn't excuse the phone thing with that. I'm not saying you are, but you did bring it up as a reason. I feel like a reasonable reaction to that would be like kicking a leg really fast in their direction. To throw a phone, you have to reach over, grab it and then do a throwing motion. There is a more time to stop a reflex.
It's better you don't kick her in the face, im just saying from a psychological standpoint. You gotta realize most people are dealing with fucked up things that they're constantly trying not to make them turn shitty.
I have terrible anger issues towards objects. But literally no one is ever mad at me, because of my patience with people. Even the ones with anger issues themselves. You just gotta remember that everyone is going through shit and you're just adding to it. When you stop doing that, they stop doing it to you. Or you find new people that don't do that to you.
Edit: The communication thing was the best 1st advice.
I understand that. I addressed it a little earlier. I did actually kick really quick, but she was fortunately doing it in a very cautious way so I didnt kick her. It was just waking up like that set the adrenaline off and when the phone went off well... anger.
I recognize these things and I am working on them. I'm trying very hard, but it's not a short proccess. This AMA was actually supposed to bring in the trolls to make me deal with that shit, and force myself to be calm..