LogFAQs > #953823554

pogo_rabid posted...

I'll never understand people who give this advice. There's usually good reason some of us keep away from our parents and want nothing to do with them.

did you not read the rest of my post? I said I get that people have abusive parents. I DO think they if they are dying, you should visit them regardless, you can get some kind of closure and maybe they can apologize for what they have done, although waiting till death is ehh. But that's your choice. just my two cents

Joker98 posted...

People with amazing relationships with their parents don't understand that some people feel bad after interacting with their parents and that interacting with them generally is bad for their health.

I didn't have amazing relationships with parents. There are some things I couldn't take to my parents about that a lot of americans could freely. so many things I had to learn on my own. I had some resentment too with my dad, but in the grand scheme of things it didn't matter

I wasn't super close to them and was in my own world. But I was lucky enough that they treated me well and they were good people. they were annoying at times, but who isnt't.

I just think that death or near death does change a lot of things. You never expect what will happen after. How you feel about them. I knew I would regret some things already though. I do think if parents are trying to change for the better, it's worth some contact or reconcilation. but whatever. it's up to you

---

Less is more. Everything you want, isn't everything you need.