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Cleo_II posted...

How did it feel to lose him that young? How was your relationship with him otherwise?

He was born in 1933.
I was born in 1979.
There was nothing in common between our life experiences. He couldn't accept life in the late 80s and 90s were different to his childhood in the 40s. He expected bike rides and picnics and a ripping good adventure like some Enid blyton fairy tale, the reality was drugs, rave music and violence. We fought more than anything else. He was a child of Victorian parents, stiff upper lip, lack of affection, children seen and not heard. There was a huge disconnect between us.
Last words he said to me as he lay in a care home slowly passing away,
"You ruined my life"

But... And I hasten to add this, that's my dad, no one else's, he was what he was, he knew war, violence, serving in the military, death and discipline. He typified british coldness and lack of emotion. Other older dad's will be completely and entirely.different, but they will all run the risk of leaving their child earlier than dad's much younger than them. My best friends dad was 17byears older than my best friend. They'd hit pubs and bars and music venues together, football games and holidays. I never had that.

And that's enough sharing for one day.

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