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One parent spanked me as a form of discipline.
One parent didn't.

Ironically, the former parent was a net positive on my life, and the latter I'm just...not on good terms with. >_>

I didn't turn out fine, maybe the spanking had something to do with it. But there was a lot wrong with my family growing up, and I feel like the spanking was probably a drop in the bucket compared to other things. Though it's also likely it contributed to some of my behavior problems back then. But on the other hand, the one parent was, while imperfect, genuinely concerned for my development, the other, just sort of viewed me simultaneously as a golden, perfect child too good for the world, and also a perpetual annoyance whose every choice and action was awful and an embarrassment to them.

I mean i feel like I can't even complain. It's not like, one of those misery porn situations where my entire childhood sucked constantly. It was ultimately such a banal form of suffering. I eventually learned to just stop caring about the latter's opinions and judgments. The further I distanced myself as I grew older, the more hostile they'd treat me. Not like, openly hostile. Just that sort of low key disdain. The biggest mistake I ever made in my life, was convincing myself that that parent was capable of genuine, selfless love. I ended up betrayed at a critical juncture in my life, and it really fucked up the path I was taking at the time.

So idk. I could never bring myself to spank a child. But on a personal level, if I had the choice to relive my youth and needed to choose one of my parents to be stuck with, I'd pick the one that spanked me. I think, whatever problems spanking might have given me, I could've worked through a lot better than the other. Especially since the parent who spanked me, if they could understand the potential damage they were doing, they'd fight like hell to repair it.

People aren't perfect, idk

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