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HornedLion posted...

I mean... if my girl sought another man to tell him how bad of a day shes had, and looked to him for affirmation Id be upset.

BUT... it wouldnt be a dealbreaker. It would be more of a wake up call.

And that's your personal boundary. You're entitled to draw whatever lines you like for what you consider acceptable behaviour, and there's really no objective "right/wrong" way to do so. She's entitled to do the same. Then, in turn, you are both entitled to (and, in fact, should) reject the relationship if you consider those boundaries unacceptable.

Quite simply, if she has a problem with you relying on other people for the emotional support she's trying to offer you, you're cheating if you do so. That doesn't mean you can't have legitimate reasons for that reliance, which you can (and should) discuss with her so you can arrive at a compromise you both feel comfortable with, but you are cheating if you go behind her back to do something she's not comfortable with you doing.

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