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GameLord113 posted...

Been dating for a little over 6 months now, and I think Im just tired of her stuff. Whats pushed me over the edge is she texted me this afternoon how shes not going to show up for work tomorrow and quit her job. She schedules patients appointment and goes over financial paperwork with them at a doctors office and they want her to do that stuff face to face with the patients now instead of over the phone like she has the past few months. I can understand her not wanting to come in close contact with people, but what bugs me is she is being rather hypocritical in my opinion. I say that because just this last weekend she was out at a pool party with a bunch of people and is constantly going/hanging out with groups of friends. I just feel like shes trying to use it as an excuse to be lazy and cause drama. Plus I dont want her trying to move in with no job because now she cant afford rent because she quit her decent paying job. Am I the one overreacting or should I just give her the boot?

It's rational to not want her to move in and be dependant on you. You're bf/gf, not married; putting her wants and needs above yourself is a disservice to yourself. That would not be self-love and your love for her on an even level, and that's a parasitic relationship waiting to happen.

That said, she might have hit a breaking point; ego is self-destructing; and female energy needs a chance to be creative. Finance/billing is soul crushing stuff. That said, you're the best judge of character of your own situation, and maybe she is being a drama queen. My wife and I had a hypocritical friend who was afraid to do anything around people, and then got excited on a vacation and said "ooo let's go to Walmart" and it was some of the most [liberal] draining shit double standard context if I wrote it out... it was ridiculous.

Check yourself, too. Is your own frustration coming from being envious and not having spare time/energy yourself?

Be honest with yourself, or...

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