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only skimmed the thread so far so apologies if anything is off base

I grew up with an abusive, narcissistic father, and had an event similar to this last year, where he blew up at basically the whole family, sent cryptic texts, then locked himself in his apartment and wouldnt answer the phone. It was all an act, of course, to try and get sympathy after he caused a huge fight. He blamed my sister and her boyfriend for all of it, because he had asked my dad to stop saying something offensive.

I dont know what to say, because I dont have any good way of dealing with it myself, but its not your fault. Your distance from him is a direct result of his abuse, and that is no fault of your own and is a completely valid response to enduring that for so long. Threats like this, in my anecdotal experience, are an attempt to have your cake and eat it too; they want you back in their life, without having to reckon with what they have done to create the situation. You are a good person TC, and you dont deserve to deal with this.

Regarding calling in wellness checks, I have had to do so on 2 of my exes. The police will not do anything meaningful of course, but they will show up and effectively expose the threat as a manipulative lie. If he may actually have a gun, Im not sure how to proceed with that, though.

Hang in there TC, and dont fall for his manipulation tactics. Wish I had more to say, as you have always been supportive in my threads about my abusive ex, but know that whatever makes you feel safest is whats right to do.

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