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Topic	Should a trans person reveal they are trans before a date?
2Privileged4U 12/29/19 2:55:56 PM #307:	hockeybub89 posted... 2Privileged4U posted... Our attractions are natural. Physical, mental and emotional. If you're not attracted to somebody, you're not attracted. No mental gymnastics or guilt trips are going to change that. Look at the poll and process what that means. Point to where I called anyone a bigot for not dating trans women. I literally haven't even advocated for them to never divulge that informnation. I just disagree that they have to do it up front. Only certain personalities will be able to do that. 2Privileged4U posted... You spun the FUCK out that post and added your own bullshit. Who said anything about a life story? You exaggerate, stretch the truth and everything else that's dishonest. No wonder you're advocating for more deception. (I'm not saying being trans in ITSELF is deception. Clarification for the impaired) Not everyone is comfortable sharing personal information to complete strangers. It is ridiculous to demand that all trans people act a certain way. They won't always be comfortable confiding into everyone they meet. It makes perfect sense that one might not be comfortable telling someone they are trans before they trust them as friends or something more. It's not at all ridiculous to expect all PEOPLE to be honest about very basic information. Since when did the gender of the person you're dating become "personal information?" You don't get to violate BASIC dating etiquette just because you've got baggage associated with your identity. You can't pick and choose when you want to be treated like everybody else and when to be treated special just because you're insecure. This "have my cake and eat it too" approach is counter productive to the inclusion goal. Trans or not. That's for everybody. But if you feel like something as basic as your gender should be withheld from somebody you're trying to find a romantic spark with, you might wanna consider that you're not ready to date. Just not in a place in life to even have a partner because you still need to work on you first. And that's okay too. Btw, I don't mean YOU personally the vast majority of the time I used "you." But DO apply it wherever it fits. --- "Give me Liberty or give me death!" -Melania Trump <cite>2Privileged4U posted [p:932201828] in Should a t... [t:78287691]...</cite> <quote>hockeybub89 posted...</cite> <quote>2Privileged4U posted... </cite> <quote> Our attractions are natural. Physical, mental and emotional. If you're not attracted to somebody, you're not attracted. No mental gymnastics or guilt trips are going to change that. Look at the poll and process what that means.</quote>Point to where I called anyone a bigot for not dating trans women. I literally haven't even advocated for them to never divulge that informnation. I just disagree that they have to do it up front. Only certain personalities will be able to do that. 2Privileged4U posted... </cite> <quote> You spun the FUCK out that post and added your own bullshit. Who said anything about a life story? You exaggerate, stretch the truth and everything else that's dishonest. No wonder you're advocating for more deception. (I'm not saying being trans in ITSELF is deception. Clarification for the impaired)</quote>Not everyone is comfortable sharing personal information to complete strangers. It is ridiculous to demand that all trans people act a certain way. They won't always be comfortable confiding into everyone they meet. It makes perfect sense that one might not be comfortable telling someone they are trans before they trust them as friends or something more. </quote> It's not at all ridiculous to expect all PEOPLE to be honest about very basic information. Since when did the gender of the person you're dating become "personal information?" You don't get to violate BASIC dating etiquette just because you've got baggage associated with your identity. You can't pick and choose when you want to be treated like everybody else and when to be treated special just because you're insecure. This "have my cake and eat it too" approach is counter productive to the inclusion goal. Trans or not. That's for everybody. But if you feel like something as basic as your gender should be withheld from somebody you're trying to find a romantic spark with, you might wanna consider that you're not ready to date. Just not in a place in life to even have a partner because you still need to work on you first. And that's okay too. Btw, I don't mean YOU personally the vast majority of the time I used "you." But DO apply it wherever it fits. --- "Give me Liberty or give me death!" -Melania Trump</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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