LogFAQs > #927960155

I don't really agree that cis and trans is a spectrum - I don't think it's really 'one or the other' either, I just think it's more complicated than that, and there's a lot of different ways to express one's gender, to think about it and compartmentalize it, but at the end of the day describing myself as anything other than "cis", at least as I am today, would feel quite disingenuous. I'm certainly not trans! I think most trans people would be baffled at best and appalled at worst if I tried to claim such a label for myself without actually living the experience I think it'd be kind of offensive really.

I do agree that for a lot of people having these thoughts is often just a precursor and people definitely shouldn't feel pressured into suppressing these feelings, either out of fear of coming out or simply out of a feeling of "oh, no, it couldn't be me." I do think cis/straight people should remain openminded too, because, well, nobody really knows everything about themselves and people can change over time. But speaking as a cis guy I do think people need to be allowed to have doubts! It's totally possible to have really deep questions about your gender for a long time and then still comfortably and confidently assert yourself as cis. I'm a lot more comfortable as a man than I was 15 years ago because I allowed myself to express doubt - entertaining transness has legit made me more comfortable as cis.