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PerfectChaosZ posted...

If you think about getting with the same sex in a sexy way you arent curious and you definitely arent straight. Straight folks never think about it, really, thats not like an insult somehow or anything they really dont even consider it unless its mentioned to them and they are flabbergasted when reminded. If you think of it on your own or it turns you on you are attracted to dudes even a bit. So youre pan for sure.

People tend to get emotional over the debate between bi and pan but I just feel that pan is a more inclusive and better term while bisexual is more archaic from a time when we didnt understand gender an sexuality as much. But its also so marginalized and erased that I understand why folks cling so hard to their bi identity and saying pan is largely the same kinda feels like more erasure. So I dont begrudge people that still like to use bi whatsoever.

Oh and if you ever think about being the opposite sex same goes for you, you arent cis. I promise you a cis person never thinks about it.

Wow, this is all way too black and white, especially the cis thing.

I'm a cisgender guy. I identify as gay but my sexual preferences probably lean closer to bi (it's complicated). I have definitely thought about being either a trans woman or nonbinary a lot - I have plenty of weird gender feelings all the time. Used to be a lot more confused about it when I was in my teens, not so much lately. I've felt that these gender labels don't really define me very me or suit me very well, nor would performing them suit me well as a general rule, and I'm comfortable being male, so I've stuck with that and I plan to in the future. I think it'd be fun to crossdress or something but I probably wouldn't go further than that. I'm still cis. You're really putting the concept of what cisgender is into a narrow box on this one.