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| Topic | Got back with the crazy person. It has gotten worse. |
| prettyprincess 11/16/18 1:56:39 PM #37: | Tactical_Spork posted... But am I responsible for the trauma they are now going through? Am I also abusive in this situation? I dont know the answer or know whats right Tactical_Spork posted... But not just for that, for convincing them to not break up so many times, for allowing it to continue and trying to salvage it well after it was apparent it sucked. Is that abusive or am I just sad and desperate for validation and affection? the ultimate and most important part of this is no, and that it doesnt generate an excuse to continue your own suffering regardless of if you do decide to blame yourself they may even cite you as the reason for their own suffering but it does not make you responsible in that you did not act maliciously to make that so the desire to work at building a healthy relationship and the pusuit of that acted out in good faith can simply turn out to be mistaken and not leave a fix to be had, the greatest resolution here is to recognize that continuing at it will merely prolong and deepen the negative aspects for both of you --- And in an infinite regress, tell me, why is the pain of birth lighter borne than the pain of death? ... Copied to Clipboard! |
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