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darkknight109 posted...

Yes, I'm sure we all remember the point in our lives where we selected our sexual orientation...

Sarcasm aside, I can honestly say that my sexual identity today isn't even remotely the same as it was when I was 19, which in turn wasn't the same as it was when I was 9.

Whether or not you want to argue that sexual preference is genetically hardcoded, subconsciously influenced by early life experiences, directly shaped by the culture and environment you are raised in, or some combination of all three, there's more than enough evidence in the world to suggest that sexuality isn't necessarily a solid and unchanging absolute throughout a person's life, and people can absolutely be "mistaken" about their sexuality or change their sexuality over time.

So it's not an outrageous statement to imply that a 9-year old might absolutely be confused about who and what they are, and that they might have wound up dying over something which wasn't even true.

Even aside from the fact that, the way that article is phrased, it almost makes it sound like the kid was claiming to be "gay" when he fell more into an "effeminate/queer" sort of mold, or even drifting into trans. Saying "I'd rather dress like a girl" doesn't really mean you're gay. It's entirely possible that he didn't really understand any of the implications of what he was saying, and that he was miscommunicating his actual situation because he was nine years old.

When I was nine years old, I couldn't even articulate to my parents or myself why I hated being in band and didn't want to play an instrument, so I wound up costing them hundreds of dollars on instrument rental that I never used because I secretly skipped practice to avoid a confrontation. The infinite complexities of sexual and gender identity certainly weren't crystal clear and easily communicable to me at that point.


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