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MildMannerdPate posted...

KINDERFELD posted...

Keep thinking you and her are some anomaly and impervious to the pitfalls of having an open marriage.

Haha like that is much worse than pretending that other people can't live differently than you without destroying each other

There may be pitfalls but if there are we will deal with them and then move on

I'm not saying that you guys cannot stay together holding on to a memory of what you once had, because that's what most folks who take your route end up doing. They remain together out of codependency of just out of comfort.
But don't kid yourself. You cannot open up your marriage like that and expect no negative repucussions. I mean, we literally have centuries of evidence of this being the case.

You may have a wife who will allow you to do what you want to do simply because she doesn't want to limit you as a person, but she will certainly not be content with you having sex with other women even if she tells you she's okay with it.

Its as if you're asking her if she likes being punched in the face and she keeps telling you yes when you know fully well that no one likes being punched in the face.

In the end, you'll realize, and probably not before her, that you two were not ready or should not have been married in the first place.

You think you're going to be able to treat this other woman as simply a hole you use to get off but watch what happens when your mind starts making comparisons between her and your wife and I won't expect you to create a topic on here telling us this as you'd be too ashamed and too well aware that you've now fucked your marriage up.
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the polyfilla way look strong in the weakness of the gaps