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Pow Pow Punishment posted...

That's insane. Did you just cut him off entirely after that? Or was there a period of him trying to woo you back?

Pretty much. We had some back and forth over like 2 weeks but then I eventually told him to go fuck himself (or rather Vas te faire fotre lol). He never really saw that what he did was wrong and was still siding with his mom.

Then I just cut him off. He tried telling me I left some things at his house one time. So he came by my new apartment and started peaking in, commenting how nice it looked. It was obvious he was waiting for me to invite him in. I took my things and shut the door on him (in a casual, ok bye now! kind of way). He tried telling me he had more of my things a month later and I told him to keep it.

Then a year later he emailed me happy birthday. On the wrong day lol. I never responded

Godnorgosh posted...

I'm surprised you made it as close to the wedding as you did, but it's good that you didn't go through with it. Some people might give in to the whole sunk cost idea and be like, well, we made it this far, so we may as well stick it out. But obviously that's not a path you want to go down.

Honestly it was stupid, but the pressure of having a big expensive wedding is what kept me around. I was more worried about being embarrassed (Im middle eastern and they love to gossip).

Once the wedding was off the table, I was finally free. I cried over the embarrassment of it all. But I never cried over the actual break up. I wish I could go back and slap myself in the face for letting it get to that point. It was a miracle his mom did what she did and ultimately saved me