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DuneMan posted...

You already said you were more inclined to believe her. Even if you say you didn't mean it that way, your posts have consistently looked more favorably upon her in tone.

where did I say that?

I said I wasn't any more inclined to believe him than I was inclined to believe her...

My first post in this topic was saying she had consented to having sex and wasn't raped...

DuneMan posted...

In her story she describes a textbook list of things that controlling people do in relationships, like no contact with the opposite sex outside of work requirements, sequester yourself away from the world when you aren't being supervised, give your body for sex whenever it's wanted, etc. She also throws in weird details that don't make sense, like the "I think I love you too, ******" line.

She describes her time with him thusly:
"When cameras were on us? He was a prince. Turn them off, he was a nightmare."

Yet she's seeking cordiality and friendship with this person after having broken away from them more than half a year prior to that? That doesn't follow.

If you're in a mental prison landscape where you describe your life as:"During all of this I lost myself, both mentally and physically. I lost 15 lbs within weeks, started pulling out my hair (and had to get extensions regularly to hide it). I generally stopped speaking unless spoken to while with him, drifting through life like a ghost. I would try to sleep in as late as possible so my days were shorter. I stopped listening to music entirely. I ceased to be. I was an ex-person."

Then you certainly don't want any more contact with that. Friends and family would certainly have told her the same thing if that is how her life had been playing out at that time. Hell, she says as much in her story:
"I was so desperate to be out I just clung on to the first knight in shining armor to show up."

It's just about listening to both stories and evaluating them on their own terms. You're saying this doesn't make sense, but her whole story doesn't make sense if you assume that a person who has something bad done to them will automatically defend themselves and make a rational decision for their own benefit. We know that isn't how she operates regardless of whether she's telling the truth, though. She's admitting to being a young gal with daddy issues who chases older men for that reason. She's fucked up, dude. Even if this story isn't true.
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