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trentpac posted...

I get it. Honestly I don't care how his friends feel about this...I'm more concerned about how your husband is going to take this.

I just think that you went about this the wrong way. You basically threw him a curveball. He's like WTF we had plans...I guess were not good enough for you. I know you don't mean that...but that could very well be what he's precieving your actions to mean.
Believe me I know it sucks, but sometimes you have to spend time with your significant other's friends. I haven't always liked my girlfriends friends...I've even downright hated a few. You're there for your husband, not them.

This is clearly bothering him and you know it, otherwise you wouldn't have posted this. There's always next time. Next time make plans to spend time to see both sets of friends if possible...or alternate.

I understand what you mean and understand how this may look. But chances are, if she wasn't even a priority with them, they probably wouldn't even notice her being absent. Also, being married doesn't just mean attending things together. It also means covering up for one another if the need arises (provided shes honest about this whole thing with her husband and im sure she is). After all, as a husband, his priority would be HER feelings and not what his friends will think. A nice excuse (not too exaggerated) will suffice. And people will take it. It's not as if the husband's friends will give it a lot of thought either. I wouldn't be surprised if they just said: "Oh she won't be able to make it? That's too bad. Oh well.".

People are fickle that way towards others whom they don't have a deep bond with and there's nothing wrong with that. People are people. It is what it is.
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