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Topic	My ex-boyfriend gave me a hug before he left for work.
wolfy42 05/29/18 3:55:16 AM #57:	It may not be that simple for him either. There are things about your relationship he probably liked and misses/missed once it was over. It's also highly likely that when you were in rehab he had time to himself and realized he was unhappy, hence him breaking up with you at that point. If he is a caring guy, he probably is scared of getting back into a relationship with you for fear of it not working and hurting you when it doesn't (or getting trapped in something he isn't happy with). Heck any of that could be happening but he doesn't even know it. Best bet is if you really want to be in a relationship with him, take it slow, just try and have fun/be happy around him as much as possible, and show him you have your life under control etc. I wouldn't make a big deal about him hugging you etc, and while you might want to eventually let him know your still open to getting together again (if you have not already), I wouldn't pressure him, even after a month. Let him get comfortable with living with you and see that you have control of your life and don't need him. If he feels safe, he is either going to want to start a relationship again, or he is going to want to eventually move out etc. Doesn't sound like he's working towards moving out, so I'd say he's at least open to getting back together. I'd suggest focusing on your own life for now, and honestly don't even know if being in a relationship right now is the best idea. Get your own life in order, boost your own self worth/self esteem etc, and once you feel confident in yourself, then consider being in a relationship. Might be better to just stay friends with him for now, at least for a month or two, and then if you both want to get back together, you will be centered in who you are, and your new life, and not in the middle of changing. Doesn't mean he can't be a good friend though, or hug you etc. I just think in such cases, unless your already in a commited relationship, it's best to focus on your self, and not need to worry about another persons feelings, or open yourself up to pain etc from a relationship. You can't control a relationship, but you can control yourself. --- "did you steal my f*in signature" Helly <cite>wolfy42 posted [p:902165189] in My ex-boyf... [t:76652584]...</cite> <quote>It may not be that simple for him either. There are things about your relationship he probably liked and misses/missed once it was over. It's also highly likely that when you were in rehab he had time to himself and realized he was unhappy, hence him breaking up with you at that point. If he is a caring guy, he probably is scared of getting back into a relationship with you for fear of it not working and hurting you when it doesn't (or getting trapped in something he isn't happy with). Heck any of that could be happening but he doesn't even know it. Best bet is if you really want to be in a relationship with him, take it slow, just try and have fun/be happy around him as much as possible, and show him you have your life under control etc. I wouldn't make a big deal about him hugging you etc, and while you might want to eventually let him know your still open to getting together again (if you have not already), I wouldn't pressure him, even after a month. Let him get comfortable with living with you and see that you have control of your life and don't need him. If he feels safe, he is either going to want to start a relationship again, or he is going to want to eventually move out etc. Doesn't sound like he's working towards moving out, so I'd say he's at least open to getting back together. I'd suggest focusing on your own life for now, and honestly don't even know if being in a relationship right now is the best idea. Get your own life in order, boost your own self worth/self esteem etc, and once you feel confident in yourself, then consider being in a relationship. Might be better to just stay friends with him for now, at least for a month or two, and then if you both want to get back together, you will be centered in who you are, and your new life, and not in the middle of changing. Doesn't mean he can't be a good friend though, or hug you etc. I just think in such cases, unless your already in a commited relationship, it's best to focus on your self, and not need to worry about another persons feelings, or open yourself up to pain etc from a relationship. You can't control a relationship, but you can control yourself. --- "did you steal my f*in signature" Helly</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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