LogFAQs > #899140189

I use gender neutral for anyone who asks it, but as a non-native speaker, it really messes with my head. Especially if it's someone I knew going by the gendered pronouns originally. So it takes me a lot of "Stop, think, then talk" and is somewhat distracting...but if it's what it takes to make them happy, so be it.

> that from now on bathrooms are preferred gender not gender exclusive

This has been debated as the deadest of dead horse, but that still never made sense to me. Bathrooms are not gender-specific, they're one of the few things that are very much biological sex-specific. They're literally optimized based on what's in your pants, regardless of gender. So it just makes sense that anyone can use either regardless of their "preferred gender", and very much based on what's in their pants require. And since it's not particularly nice to ask people what's in their pants, we should just have gender neutral bathrooms OR free for all.

But "gender preferred", or really anything related to gender (as opposed to sex/biology) and bathrooms just makes no sense.