you should try and help your partner through the day by day and generally
You think that's what the vows said? I'll try to help you, generally speaking? What the hell is a marriage for? It's a bond through thick and thin. Addiction is a disease like any other. Besides that, it shouldn't matter what disease it is. What do the vows say, I'll love you in sickness and in health, except for disease A, disease B, disease C, but other than that we're fine? If you ain't willing to help when the going gets tough, then yeah, maybe you shouldn't be married.But TC made a vow. You don't just give up on family. Someone gets sick and suddenly you want to leave. Pffft, yeah, that's devotion...
I have helped. As much as I can. Countless times. If she wont go and get help I cant do shit about it. Other than involve law enforcement.
Brother if that's how you feel, then go on and get your CE approved divorce. Why you up in here asking about ethics when you've made up your mind already? Do whatever you have to to help your wife, or just let go.