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I feel so incredibly guilty.

My great grandfather was moved into hospice care yesterday and we were told he had about a week to live. I planned on driving up (he lives about 500km away) with my grandparents tomorrow to visit him while I could. Just got a phone call... He's now completely unresponsive. Still alive, but can't interact with anyone in any way.

My grandparents told me not to bother going, since he won't know I'm there, and if he were to pass away while driving, I'd have just wasted my time... Now here's the kicker. I can't attend the funeral. I'm going back to Africa this Sunday for work. The process to get everything in place took like 4 months, and we'd basically have to start from scratch if I bailed (in short, my boss would be quite upset with me).

I'm not particularly close to my great grandfather - only saw him once a year or so. Sometimes not even that. But I feel horrible that I'm not seeing him or attending the funeral. My grandparents "feel horrible that I feel that way" and are telling me it's fine and that I shouldn't worry about it. But man.

What should I have done here? Is there even a correct answer?

Feelings are hard.
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Assassins do it from behind.