LogFAQs > #890032008

I would go with the first option.. or maybe the last option. But given how you're considering on staying in the current apartment you hate just because of her, you likely value your relationship with her.

That being said, it's not healthy to be obsessed with a certain place. Especially if it is clearly failing in many ways and she knows that you aren't currently happy living there. It is normal for people to move. Does she plan for you two to stay living there another 5 or 10 years? The rest of your life? How many more years can you stand living there if that would be the case?

Which leads me to believe her reaction may be more than just moving. Is she secretly not okay with living with an extra person perhaps? And using this current apartment as an excuse?

Either way, I feel you should be more firm about moving. Explain to her (obviously nicer than I'm about to say it) that adults make decisions and she has already made one and signed the lease. It's financially irresponsible to back out, not fair to the mutual friend for suddenly backing out, and not beneficial to the relationship due to your discontent of the obviously failing place you two likely won't end up living in another year or two from now.

With some people, they don't know what they want and you just need to shove them in the pool and they'll love it.
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