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Pitlord_Special posted...

What makes you so certain he cant control his behavior? Because this seems like a manipulation tactic on his part

Obviously nobody here knows him better than you but as someone who has had this done to me in relationships as well as, admittedly, done it to others in relationships I can't hear this and not think he's doing it on purpose, even if it's not maliciously.

You've essentially given him a free pass to take the heat off himself by playing the victim because he knows you'll always bite and even if you're not trying to be maliciously manipulative, when you have a strong desire to avoid blame or looking bad, it's hard not to take a clear avenue even when you know it's manipulative.

If I had any advice I'd say that the next time you bring it up you need to be firm and say "This is not about you right now, we can discuss your issues after, but right now this is about me"