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KogaSteelfang posted...

I recently turned 40 and am a dateless virgin as well. Also have social anxiety, depression, and several other mental blocks in the way. I don't think I'll ever manage to overcome this or be with anyone. I often get eaten up with envy for others that have found success, and it's not a pleasant way to live.

Thankfully it sounds like you're doing well and have adjusted in a healthy way. Good for you.

Well I don't want to sound like everything is perfectly fine. I do have much of the same issues as you. I just choose to avoid situations that cause me to spiral into that abyss. For me, as long as I stay totally anti-social and never go out with family, I never get negative thoughts. Anytime I try to go out and be around people, that is when I just go into full anxiety and depression mode. So the key for me is to just not try anymore. I know it's wrong but it's the only way I can deal.

I recently went to my brothers wedding and had a major anxiety meltdown once I got home and I basically shut myself in my room for 3 days and barely ate or drink water because It was just that overwhelming to me. Before that I haven't been to any kind of social gathering in many years.

I was also teased quite a bit my aunts about "where's your gf?" "I thought you were the one getting married, not your little brother!" "When's your wedding?" "You're a handsome man! Any girl would be happy to be with you!" which were annoying to say the least.