LogFAQs > #976240496

KitKats posted...

I'll just make you some tea.

Coffee would be better.

Jupiter posted...

Another red flag is the way you are lashing out to all of this information people are giving you. Including women. Maybe try something new and reflect on the new information instead of fighting tooth and nail over your views (that have clearly not given you the outcome you desire).

I defend my views and what I value tooth and nail.
Gray_Areas posted...

Right, but they form because of those connections. If you aren't willing to form connections with people around shared interests or experiences, then it seems like the only reason you'd form any kind of connection in a relationship is purely for an ulterior motive like sex or something.

Connections form due a plethora of reasons. Right day at the right time. How a conversation flows. How someone eventually values the other person. Common interests.

For the sex part, it's completely fine to have sex. Where did you get this idea that having sex is an inherent bad thing?

That's not really being independent. At best, that's being asocial but more likely it's being emotionally closed off. Neither are very appealing to people looking for a relationship. And your current status of friends absolutely affects how you'd treat a potential partner. If you have no other friends, that partner would either be your only emotional attachment so you get "clingy" or you fail to maintain the relationship and eventually distance yourself like with any other former friends.

If you do things yourself, rely on yourself, and dont depend or put too much dependent on others, then thats literally being independent.

Current status of friends doesn't really affect your potential partner. Because multiple people have reasons why they may have a close circle or no friends at all. Which include
A. Moving
B. Having traumatic experiences
C. Busy with other things that they value

If you have no other friends, that effects nothing on how you look at your partner. Everyone deals with their emotions in different ways. When people go on dates, the first question isn't "do you have any friends" the focus is on what they do for work, how they spend their time, the flow of the conversation, attraction, and more. You cite "clinginess" but fail to realize that clinginess happens with a lot of people , regardless of them having current or past relationships.

No, hence why I said it was a suggestion. And broken people being in a relationship doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship.

Not every relationship is perfect and people go through life with trauma and experiences that shape them to who they are. News at 11.