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Jupiter posted...

Just because she pretended to be a man doesn't mean her profile was appealing to other women (or her actual first message). I would say I'd get a response from maybe 7-8 out of 10 matches when I was on Tinder.

I get a response message, maybe once every 4 months. I'm not a bad looking dude. I'm a bit overweight, but I have a decent personality and most women who I actually go on dates with enjoy my personality and want to go on 2nd and 3rd dates. That said, its very skewed in one direction.

I talked about this with a few of my female friends, if I send them a message, I'm literally playing a roulette wheel if its going to even be seen by them on a dating app. I'm not even talking about the quality of a message. Dating apps in general are very bias towards women. Women get free access to the app, they don't have to pay for anything and they get the full experience and lineup of men that are signed up. Meanwhile men see less than a percentage of the available female on said app. That's how these dating apps make their money. They goad men to paying for the full service so they can see the full amount of women on the app, and even then it might not be the full amount.

As per my previous point, I might get a response every 4 months. Meanwhile my female friend gets messages every 5 seconds. It gets to the point where she has to turn off notifications if she is around anyone otherwise her phone will constantly be going off. So imagine if you will, a decent looking male trying to get his message seen in between the 900 other messages just for that hour alone.

Which is why some people took it upon themselves to make apps where the woman has to message first.