LogFAQs > #975282641

Sometimes, everything does suck. It's not a bad day, it's maybe not even a series of bad days. Sometimes it's actually a series of days that individually aren't bad, but they also aren't great, and you don't foresee a change in that pattern. That's what really got to me at my lows... I felt like I was in a holding pattern of "this is the future" and it really brought me down. A day at an amusement park might revitalize you short term, but it's costly, it wears off, and it obviously can't be something you think of as your goal.

What helped me was to come up with a plan. I don't even know for sure if I can execute it. I don't even know if I need ot execute it. What I needed was a plan on how to move forward, something to work towards, something that makes me happy(?) to want to work toward.

I have just barely made my way to this point, but I feel better than I have for most of my life. Make a plan. Set a goal. Give yourself a thing to work on that you would like to achieve, even if it seems like it is out of reach for you. If you have wanted to do it in the past and other have told you that you can't, fuck them. You can. Those people are like crabs in a bucket. They like to drag others back down to their level if they see someone doing even a little better.

The truth is, as far as my life experience has taught me, having a goal puts you in the best place you can be emotionally. Achieving it can give you a high, but it wears off. You will have to find a new goal to achieve. But the biggest thing that keeps you from creating goals that you could achieve, let alone perusing them, are other people telling you that you can't.

Other people can be like crabs in a bucket. They'd rather pull you down than see you succeed when they can't. Analyze your personal relationships and find the people who tell you that you can't live the life you want to live, the people who tell you that you can't be happy. Then ask yourself, is it worth it to you to remain unhappy to prove them right?

Just make a plan to put yourself on the road to happiness, no matter how unlikely it is. The worst you could do is fail, and nothing will be different. The most likely thing, though, is you feel better just for trying. Even if you want to do nothing, like you're Peter from Office Space, that's a goal you could work towards and even achieve easier than you think you could. The first step is to eliminate the pattern you've made for yourself that has created personal stagnation.