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A lot of well published feminists are also anti-trans because it "diminishes the experience of women" or some shit, does that make it right? They are judging an issue/people/community without being apart of or understanding it.

Most of the arguments you've presented also apply to vanilla sex. Guy penetrates girl IS "patriarchal sexual ideology." How do you resolve that cognitive dissonance? In a community where M/F, F/M, F/F, and M/M are all equally accepted, how is that any less egalitarian than a community which necessarily cordons off mates into pairs? Is a lesbian couple less lesbian for using a strap-on? That's just a step away from the logic used in the essays you linked. If you're into kink, just read the first sentence of this interview,

I spent June and July of 1980 in rural Vermont, an idyllic, green, vital world, alive in a short summer season. I teach there summers and winters. One afternoon, Sue (another teacher) and I lay sunbathing on a dock in the middle of a small pond. I suddenly imagined what it would be like to see someone dressed in black leather and chains, trotting through the meadow, as I am accustomed to seeing in my urban neighborhood in San Francisco I started laughing as one of the parameters of the theater of sadomasochism became clear; it is about cities and a created culture, like punk rock, which is sustained by a particularly urban technology.

Does that sound like someone who understands the dynamics of kink? Who understands topping from the bottom, safewords, or boundaries?
Seriously, if you understand kink just read the article and look at how ridiculously it portrays kink. It has all the understanding of an episode of CSI - maybe less. It's far more concerned with its portrayal in the media, connection to perceptions of lesbianism, and possible personal misunderstanding than it is concerned with what actually happens.
And it's pretty fair to attack them for their age considering they're mostly talking about kink culture in their area rather than play that happens behind the bedroom door.

But if some old names are going to guilt you for what you like without you actually questioning what they've written, I don't see how I can change that opinion.