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ChocoboMog123 posted...

100% this person got into kink through 50 Shades.

That's me. I discovered my fetish somewhere between ages 2-5. That's more important to me than "vanilla" sexual attraction. It's just an unchangeable facet of who I am.

You can have a "growing desensitization" to just about anything. Vanilla sex, another person, hobbies, jobs, family members, food, and so on, as well as vices like alcohol and drugs. Having that experience doesn't mean it's somehow bad for you, you just need to come to terms with how it's affecting your life and how you'd like it to change (or not).

Why? Kink can be just as egalitarian as anything else.

Many feminists argue that kink, particularly BDSM, eroticizes domination/submission and that's bad for obvious reasons. And the pro-kink feminist arguments have never convinced me otherwise no matter how much I want them to.