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RiKuToTheMiGhtY posted...

I like how this article never touched on the other side of things where women have outrageous lists of requirements which most men dont have since they seek only the top 10% of men. Its funny that they never mentioned that most women were only having casual sex with the high earners to try and lock them down but are not giving average men anything.

This mindset needs to stop. So many guys online have convinced themselves that they're unsuccessful in dating because the women only want "Chad" but that's not the reality at all.

I'm 5'11, average looking, overweight, have shared custody of my 7 year old, and I'm not rich. So I'm far from the "top 10%." Yet I got plenty of dates and found my girlfriend, via online dating. So don't count yourself out.

The sooner you move past that mindset of "woman only want one type of guy" the sooner you can start finding success in dating. Plenty of women will find you interesting, but you can't focus on negativity like that or you'll miss those chances.

I dont deny there are a lot of young men in their early 20s looking for casual fun but they do so because they have no reason to be that serious since they have nothing yet. Looking for fun dates and getting ti know her dates are what you should be doing not this job interview dating asking shit like do you want your children in public or private school.

I really feel like that's an extreme example and not representative of the norm. Out of the 8 first dates I had last year, not a single one of them asked me any serious questions like that. That was always something that waited until a few dates in. The first date was just fun conversation about things we like to do, movies we've seen, places we've gone recently, etc. But yes, there are both men and women who want to ask serious questions right away because they don't want to feel like they "wasted time" but not everyone does that. Usually it's just fun.

Although I could also see someone being so nervous that they unintentionally turn the date into an interview. Like their mind goes blank, so they just start reading off questions to fill the silence.