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ForsakenHermit posted...

The problem is that not conforming to what other people want is a two way street. I don't have to conform to something that she likes. It's not healthy in a relationship for someone to endure something that they consider to be a massive turnoff in the spirit of supporting a partner whether it's a physical or personality turnoff.

Unlike you I also don't expect a partner to unconditionally like everything possible that I could do with my appearance. You have no right whatsoever to call someone childish or imply that you're a 'real man' while expecting a woman to like or automatically approve every way you look equally as if they don't have any agency or preferences of their own. If I were to grow a pink mohawk down to my knees and I had a romantic partner that couldn't handle it they'd have every right to leave me if they so choose. It wouldn't necessarily mean they only care about looks it means they are human beings with deal breakers just like everyone else.

It's childish because it's just a physical thing. It's something that can be changed. It does not make the person. It shouldnt matter.

And this is just cutting her hair. It's a choice. What would you do if it wasn't a choice and it was a medical thing? It should be about the person, not their appearance.

But you are right, you can choose to leave. She can find someone else who can accept her choices. No one says you have to like it. But you can accept it, and not leave just because of it. Real relationships go beyond hairstyles.

So that's up to you. You can leave. And she will find someone else better suited for her.