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bsp77 posted...

Shit, man. That sucks and sorry you are going through that. Not sure what I can offer that others haven't already except to say it gets better. My marriage wasn't the healthiest for a long while and we had 4 kids together.

After the divorce, I had no friends or family locally, was denied custody other than a few hours a week, and had zero idea how to date (my ex was my first gf and we were basically set up). Things got so much better. I got lots of friends, I learned how to date (a little too much), and I fought a legal battle and have my kids a third of the time. Plus. I am engaged to the most wonderful person ever.

Now my ex wasn't as fucked up as yours clearly is, but she had severe anxiety regarding the children, never once sincerely apologized, made up diagnoses for me, and also made me into a caricature that I am not. This leads into why I didn't have custody before.

The point is this is simply to say that it will get better. And the kids have no damage from the divorce. Just make sure to keep it as cordial as you possibly can even if she does not. It might take awhile, but you will come out better in the end.

thanks man, and yeah i totally got hit with the same stuff. she told me not too long ago that i should get tested for autism because she's "desperate for a reason to believe that you're not just an asshole" lol. and yeah, it's rough sometimes to keep it civil. i stopped replying a few hours ago bc she called to talk about who's taking the cats and somehow she turned it into a two hour argument about how i'm a psychopath for not being sad that we're getting a divorce lol

Guide posted...

Would it be shitty of me to ask how you didn't see this coming, with a start like this? I mean, I hope it goes smoothly, I don't wish suffering just from a bad start, but...

well you see thats because

coolcono posted...

I need to ask. Was she pretty attractive?

yes. she is incredibly good looking