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Smackems posted...

My whole point is that you GET the thing to back it up yourself. That brings the confidence with it

I wasn't talking about anything specific, just in general. of course some things won't be that way. but if you go to the gym and work hard as fuck, build muscle and lose weight, you know YOU did that and you don't even need anyone else to tell you so

I feel were skipping a step.

Theoretically, someone without confidence believes they cant do something or get something.

Youre saying once you get something, youll be confident.

But the fact someone lacks confidence means they cant or wont get the thing. Thats the issue.

Youre saying something similar to find something that brings joy to a depressed person. The problem is exactly that they cant or wont find joy in things.

Your gym example. Someone can go to the gym and work out. Now what? How will they gain confidence? I would suspect they start gaining confidence when their effort is acknowledged by others. Either by compliments or being able to help physically with things for others.

I think gaining confidence is nearly impossible to do without outside affirmation.

Hopefully that made more sense. If you still dont necessarily agree, thats cool. Just wanted to elaborate my thoughts. I like your topic.