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Its a long story but Ill keep it as short as possible. Probably will still be long though.

Anyway back in December a coworker (Ellen) told me that another coworker (Mary) had a crush on me. This came from a source (Marys relative) who also works where we do but a bit higher up. I never really talked with Mary before and was interested too but didnt know how to approach out of the blue. Anyway Ellen told the source I was also interested and all of a sudden there was a work social event organized (game night) and it ended up just being me and Mary going. I felt like we hit it off decently so I asked her to lunch after it was over. We exchanged numbers at her suggestion. I asked the following Monday if she could do Friday.

Anyway it didnt end up happening because she couldnt find a sitter for her kid (who has special needs). But she genuinely seemed to have tried. I was going to leave it be but Ellen came up to me like a week later and told me that Mary was very nervous about going since shes so awkward and that I should try texting her to get to know her better. This all came from the source who I guess Mary discussed it with. I ask if Mary actually wanted to go and Ellen assured me she did.

Anyway the next game night was coming up so I decided to test the waters and send a text about it. We pretty much texted non-stop over the next two weeks, paragraphs back and forth with her re-initiating it after it died. I felt like we were getting to know each other (a lot of common interests) and that she actually was interested. Anyway that went on a couple more weeks and I decided eh, try number 2. So I asked, and she takes a while to answer (she sometimes took a while but never days). After like two days she says we can try for Friday. She ends up not being able to again (her kid had something). I just asked for lunch btw, not necessarily something obviously romantic.

Anyway this time I feel like it was really time to back off and leave it in her court. However over the next couple months she keeps reaching out. She would text first and start conversations (ended up being super long like the others, lots of questions from her), chatting on Teams at work, etc. She misses a game night (the last one until maybe Fall, organizer is getting busy) and texts me asking how it was and that she wishes she could be there etc. We text for another few days or so but then I decide what the hell, one more try. So I ask if she wants to grab lunch since it didnt line up the last couple times. She says we can try for the weekend after the current one, and I say Ill follow up next week. However we end up texting all week that week again (I left plenty of opportunities to end the texting but she always kept it going). Finally the next week rolls around and I follow up like I said I would. No answer for two days then she finally says shes too busy (she gave reasons but I wont get into them). This time I tell her I understand shes busy and if she ever wants to hang, just hit me up instead rather than me asking. She says ok and now I havent heard from her for three weeks.

Any thoughts from more experienced CEmen? Not interested? Really that busy? Trying to not think about it but I cant help but wonder. Not really looking for advice as Im not taking further action but I cant help but wonder what was going on especially since she kept reigniting it when I was ready to let it lie.