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CRON posted...

That sentiment does come off as presumptuous. I apologize.

That said, if you receive information that a potential date/partner has a personality disorder in which a significant amount of its sufferers display abusive and manipulative behavior, all while being one of the most difficult-to-treat disorders... I don't know what to tell you.

It doesn't help that a lot of BPD relationships are started and often anchored by the manipulative practice of "love bombing". One of my old therapists told me all about it, and it made complete sense when I first heard it. Coming from my own experiences, I don't want people to fall for the love bombing tactic and get sucked into an abusive relationship.

It's understandable. My whole point is just that no one, not even those of you who have dated people who have BPD, know for sure that an entirely different BPD sufferer is going to behave in the same way as the ones from your negative experiences.

You do have more experience on the subject, that is undeniable. But that just gives you a more informed perspective, not a definitive one.

I'm not saying that people should completely disregard certain mental illnesses as red flags for possible relationships. That's irresponsible. What I am saying, is that anyone in that situation should at least try to learn more about the individual in question before writing them off.

You won't know whether you have someone with a manageable case or a completely unpredictable one until you gather more info, and immediately fleeing the situation because you're not prepared for a small risk like a date or two to gather said info is shitty.

No, don't stick around if those flags turn out to be legitimate, but don't just run away because they're there.

As for the coward comment, that was meant more for the people posting in here who act like they already know how this is going to play out for TC, despite being so far removed from this specific situation that they might as well be watching a soap opera. Sorry.