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Wutobliteration posted...

''Only you can help yourself''. Even if there are people helping you, nothing will change if you don't help yourself. Even if there is no one helping you either, nothing will change if YOU don't help yourself.
Stop putting the blame on others or on the rest of the world. Life isn't fair. Some guy born in a 3rd world country doesnt whine he's poor, he just works hard till he can put food on the plate for himself and his family. Meanwhile some guy who just gives up will stay that way.

Btw, I'm gonna clarify further on this in that motivation and encouragement from other people can be extremely effective in changing your mindset. Yes, at the end of the day you will have to take action, and things won't change unless you do, but the fact that it could take help and advisement from other people to totally change your mindset suggests that people need to stop bluntly stating "only you can help yourself" when there's evidently more to that

Also, stop with the stupid comparisons to random 'hard working people in 3rd world countries'. Everyone's mindset and everyone's circumstances are different. It's idiotic. This isn't about them. I start to wonder just how 'depressed' some of you were if you give shitty advice like this.

except as you can hear from TC, he gets encouragement from no one. Seems like no one likes him, which makes it even harder.

Meanwhile if you're somehow the kind still in depression despite a whole bunch of loved ones of family and friends being aware of it and trying to help you, then you're a sad excuse for a person to be in depression. Probably not even depression, just being pathetic.

I never had anyone to talk to or help me through my bad moments. It's either I do something myself, or just sit there and whine and deteriorate further. I have to help myself. Same for anyone in this kind of situation. If everyone tells you to go jump off a building, you gonna give in to that peer pressure?
In the end, you're the one who decides.