LogFAQs > #986745498

In a sense, for asexual people, not having sex is a "healthy sexual relationship," in that they've got a relationship in which they get to enjoy having the amount of sex they want.

What I think you're actually asking, though, is how feasible it is for an asexual person to have a relationship with somebody who isn't asexual. That can be a dealbreaker. Quite a few asexual people are okay with having sex for the sake of their partner's happiness, even if they don't directly get anything out of it (sort of the same way that a lesbian who exclusively tops gets their satisfaction out of giving their partner pleasure, rather than from receiving it themselves), but others are more sex-averse and don't want that at all, and even when they are okay with it, their lack of enthusiasm can strain the relationship.

Mostly, like everything with relationships, it comes down to finding a relationship with somebody that wants the same things out of it that you do and finding amicable compromises when conflicts arise between those desires. A significant gap in sex drive can be a legitimate reason to end a relationship, but having a low/non-existent sex drive doesn't have to mean you can't find a relationship. It just means you need to find somebody that's okay with that, whether because they're the same way, because their sex drive isn't important enough to them for that to be a problem, or because you find a way to work around that (like settling on an agreeable amount of sex or opening the relationship).