LogFAQs > #985499561

Honestly, if you are actively trying to get married you're going to inevitably force yourself into a marriage that you're not happy with.

I got married at 23 to a guy I had only been dating for a little over a year because I just wanted to be married. People told me that I would know the right one when I met him, and at the time I thought I knew. But it wasn't a great relationship and because we had gotten married when we eventually split up it meant having to go to court to settle everything. If we hadn't gotten married the relationship wouldn't have dragged on as long as it had with the two of us growing resentful of each other, and the process of ending the relationship would have been way less stressful and time consuming.

I've been dating my current partner for about as long as I was in a relationship with my ex-husband. I don't really feel the need to get married again. I like having my finances separate and even though my partner means everything to me, I don't feel like marriage would make our relationship any more special than it currently is. I also just find marriage culture like big weddings and diamond rings to be a huge turnoff personally. We have our wills drafted for us to inherit everything if anything were ever to happen to either of us, and when I was in the hospital my partner had no issues being able to visit me, all things that I had convinced myself I needed to get married in order to guarantee.