From: Westbrick | #070
All of this is great news if true, but it doesn't hit at the heart of the issue- which is how your parents feel. I suspect that part of the reason your father is so upset with this arrangement is that he doesn't feel you're taking the possible repercussions seriously. Look, it's possible that your old man will never be happy with your decision to be with an older women, but dissolving the relationship is the worst thing you could do. Just try to explain yourself as best you can, in a way your father would respond well to (so tone down the emotional appeals), and make the best of things.
And let me just say this, not to be a jerk, but just as friendly advice you can take as seriously as suits you: try and keep those concerns I mentioned in mind going forward. I know people, albeit distantly, who've had their lives upended in similar situations because they waltzed through things with an dreamy idealism unbefitting of something as serious as marriage.
I don't really give a crap about how my father feels. He never gave a crap about me for 25 years and now he's just trying to be an much of an ******* as possible as per usual. He can take his opinions and shove them. He's not suddenly turning over a new leaf and trying to actually take care of me all of a sudden. And we've already addressed every single concern on the planet for the last 2.5 years. There is nothing left to analyze. It's done.
I refer you to Dark Young Link's post for counters to your ridiculousness.