User728 posted...
A few things:
1. She is very much not like the type of women you are describing. I have no actual way to prove this...but literally anyone who knows her would never in a million years fit her into the mold you just described. Everyone knows her to be the people pleasing type, the super sweet girl, and the type who is happy with the way things are regardless. Again, I have no way to prove it to you, but anyone who knows her already knows she is/never will be like what you just described so that's just out the window right there.
And I have no way to prove what I'm about to say, but I'd suspect that you're just the kind of naive, idealistic youth who's primed for exploitation. But maybe not, who knows. Maybe you've found the too-good-to-be-true gal of your dreams. Does this in any way change the fact that your parents have good reason to be worried, based on what could happen?
2. Girls usually live around 10 years longer than men...then add in the fact that no male in my family has ever lived beyond 75 (due to medical reasons) and we have an extreme likelihood of passing away around a similar time. So that's not much of a concern either.
Except that it's always a concern for parents. "Averages" do little to dispel the lingering possibility that you could be by yourself for decades.
3. I suspect you didn't read any of that post I referred you to. You are discussing a topic you just don't have a clue in the world about with my father. I already gave some smaller examples of it. No one thinks my dad's behavior is acceptable, my mother included. But as she always says, she's is afraid he'll yell at her if she says anything. You just shouldn't really open your mouth about topics you aren't familiar with. The guy has done nothing for me in any matter that doesn't relate to financials. Unless going to him for help and receiving immature cursing, screams, threats regarding his Will, telling me he won't help me or that I have 10 seconds to talk, etc, is deemed to be "doing something for me."
Oh, I read your post, and I found nothing particularly of note. He seems like a typical hardass dad with high expectations, but who nevertheless cares about you and provided a stable family environment (stable financially, at least; maybe not what you would call "emotionally").
You posted this topic in a public place, so I assume you were asking for advice and not simply empty support. Based on how these types of situations *usually* go, your parents have every right to be concerned about what you're doing, and you've offered no evidence so far to the contrary.
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