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Actually

Im going to call her Friday night

and then shoot a text with a hey havent heard from ya hoping all is well! Give me an x update!

projectpat72988 posted...

Shoulda done that yeah. But not now that'd be weird.

Are you guys young? She lives with her parents? If this is some HS shit this is how the game goes.

i didnt think we had to, but i wonder now is that the reason why? she should know I care about ehr with the flowers, card, constant texting the fact that I brought her a care package right?

@projectpat72988

friends fiance says I should have declared or asked what we were a few weeks ago since its weird gogin 3 months without ""defining": anything

also said that should have shot out a text saying i have feeligns for her strong ones and i don twan tto do casual and wondeing what she is loking for

@solosnake

I agree and what you said is something I will text back in a few days maybe weekend or after. it seems chill and like casual

it just fuckin sucks tto not reply back at all, my brother and friend said there is a good chance she will text back tomorrow but like ,what the fuck no there isn't.

my brother again said hes done talking about it he said if she never texts back then just move on with my life but i just need closure like anything at all

im just in shock she never texted me back. like legit shock

i thogut the care package was good, the cat ty, i thouth things were goign well. she def was sick last week and the sinus but man. like. where di i go wrong

how do i get over her???

thronedfire2 posted...

I didn't mean to sound TOO harsh

just take it from someone who knows from experience

there is some girl out there who will appreciate your dedication and kindness, but you might just have to slow things down a bit

if you've never been to therapy maybe even one session would be worth it? you could at least explain your feeling without judgment

i did think I was kinda slow i never said the what are we thing and just when I was with her its not lik I was clingy Ithoguht I was really chill in person.

i thin you are right with therapy everyone's told em about it saying I need it since im too overthinker

but tbh even tho my brother says not to reach back out if she doesnt text me, I really really want to just not sure what to say i ghues hte is everythign okay kind aseals hte deal

maybe hey (her name) haven't heard from ya in awhile is evrythign okay/hope everythign is okay

or just shoot a text friday as if there what no text back and proceed with a hey how are you text???

I understand. damn. i do overanalyze stuff it just sucks that it went down this way

i think maybe she thoguth it was gogin too fast or something idk

just wanted closure this will hurt for next few weeks ughh

projectpat72988 posted...

Yeah, friends of people don't lie.

these are my friends that know her

shes not teh type to really mess around like that, she was in a long comitted relationship with 1 guy for awhile, a long time actualy

maybe she does now idk butsomeoen close to ehr said shes not the type

@thronedfire2

while my freinds think its unlikely and would be super weird or messed up if she did ghosted me since she doesn't seem the type

I just feel that not getting a text back from her is looking likely and it just hurts and throws me super off to me this is i think either the longest or 2nd longest time to respond very weird.

ive been told do not reach out to her if she never reaches back out but I think they are saying that for my sanity

thronedfire2 posted...

the care package while she's sick is a nice thing, yeah.

I'm like 99% sure she knows you like her. just try to give her some space for a bit. if she likes you too she'll seek out your company.

and not texting back for a day or two isn't really ghosting, even if you're used to her responding every day.

the longer response times starting happening after the flowers, she texted me thank you for the flowers with the pink hearts even tho im reading too much into it. longer responses ddnt start happening a bit more frequent until about a week or two ago but once i did the care pckage it stopped and she was timely. you an sese response times in my OP

i sent back 5 hours later im super glad you liked them! Hope work goes well and you get good sleep tonight

she then responded 14 hours later in the morning saying work was hard and I couldn't sleep a lot of things on my mind

then I texted backl fri night, didnt hear back at all until i had to double text and ask if we were still on to watch true detective on sunday and which we did, she said she was no service somewhere with family which was true

when someone said were there signs the only signs were weird was about 5 days BEFORE valentines day she satyed over at my house and I asked her when I can see hr next and she didnt respond until we were outside and she said about that me and my dad were planning on doing my room so ill let you know ( she was renovating her room the week prior i know) whch I think was kinda weird but my freinds thought no biggie as shes not a grl that plan ahead like that,

we texted every day and she never realyyy let me know about hanging out until i asked about hanigng out either Tuesday or wed(valentines night)

I wanna say id do it over again and not give her flowers.

but of all the regrets I have, I don tthink thats one of them

its just weird the heel turn in the last week or so, just strange and shes not the type of girl to ghost AT ALL. which makes it all more bizzare and tough for me to not reach back out later this week even tho my close friends say just dont until i hear back

@thronedfire2

honestly the flowers and card while even tho she said thank you for hte flowers heart 2 hours after shje went home

I think even tho we hung out 1 time after that, I think that might have gotten into her mind.

the care package i thought was a strong move but a good move, she did say it made her cry and everyhting but

lets be honest, she SHOULD know that I like her right?

veryyy unlike her to just straight up ghost me tho very weird altho a week ago as you can see on msgs she did say twice she would like to keep me company and she would see me as soon as she can!

idk it just all sucks and first time I ever fel for someone after all these years like I said.

i just KNOW I fucked up i was always so conservative and just blahh I wish I would have done more or said more.

@bsp77

thats whats weird Im very overanlytical so I would have known we arches true detective it was good she gave me my valentines gift (I gave her flowers and card few days before on vday) we watched true detective in the morning we cuddled more I said I was starting to feel congested and bad (got sick a few days later for awhile) so when I was leaving I hugged her and said I dont want to get ou congested so she said its okay Ill kiss for you and kisses me on the cheek

then texted Tuesday and things were fine..

then after I got better I asked to hangout she then got sick and then I showed you the text messages when I dropped off the care package at her door

the fact she hasnt responded yet is really bad its been 27hours my brother thinks its weird and while not over its looking that way but he said I cant reach back out to her at all even tho he thinks she will text back 75% sure. He says I deserve this for waiting 2 days ti respond back to her

if she doesnt tho I still want to reach out to her I actually might just call her after her work Thursday night

@KanWan

thanknyou I understand

My brother said to never reach back out for my sanity and that it means its over if she doesnt care enough to text back

but I still want to reach back out tomorrow or next day somehow

She never texted me back : (

usually she would the night or morning after

Im gonna cry but its looking like its over

I think 6-7

solosnake posted...

Sounds good then, you know her better than anyone here does

im mental boming last two days becuase I reall yfeel its over

@solosnake

i sent links to two things then I sent this

Howve you been feeling? And asked her if her one cat let her other cat play with the cat toy I got them and if its still in one piece XD

if seh respnds then il ask

she doesnt reall yliek togo out at all she works in morning doign stuff then from 4-11 she works aagin, so at tnight we cant do anyhign but she prefers to hang and chill t her plce its been that way for 3 months, trust shes not much of an out person once her shched chaned I thinkit woudl be better once she goes frsit shift

The first msg I sent was cringe but the one right after is okay

if she responds

Ill say that Id really like to see her this week and that Id like to come over thurs or fri if youre up to it, been going through (her name) withdraws with the exhausting emoji

(I said the withdrawal line a month ago and she laughed and thought it was cute)

solosnake posted...

just text her dude. You can say you have been busy the last few days but have been thinking of her and would like to take her out.

i did text her

shiwed her two links one of true detective and something else

then the one right after

Howve you been feeling? And asked her if her one cat let her other cat play with the cat toy I got them and if its still in one piece XD

she mentions a week ago they liked it and one cat wasnt letting the younger one play with it

bsp77 posted...

I never said to not text her back. Many of us were saying to stop sending multiple texts, stop asking if she is ready to meet yet, and mainly to chill out.

Honestly though, for having dated for months, the texts between you two are awkward and have little warmth. It's weird.

thats what friends fianc said and I feel terrible about it since its kinda on my fault

Feel like crap listening to peoples responses of not texting here

feel
like it was the wrong move especially since now they nowhere to be found in this thread again : /

Will text her in an hour or two!

texting her tomrorow

wish me luck this isnt over yet plz

I understand

@Sandalorn

that is true, those that do say the same stuff, therapy, need ot chill, the one that knows both well has said he thinks things are still good and I need to chill out but he is saying that if we dont hang out against in the 2 weeks its weird

I do think its fucked up she texted me Sunday morning and I haven't responded yet... I feel its not good when my brother said i should have texted that same day with a hey hows your day

sounds bad when I say 3 weeks but last week she had sinus that hurt as you can tell through texts so its not as bad

@SrRd_RacinG
do you reallythink ive been anxious and needy in my texts tho? its not like I dont respod back right away

I kinda feel I fucked up not responding back to her yet

we have been haning out for almost 3 months, well last time we hung out was 3 weeks ago from today

Anyone else have thoughts ? Will text her back tomorow

Number090684 posted...

This. However while it is a bit more annoying I recommend you constantly switch characters and go through their stories at a equal pace. Don't focus too much on one character's story and get too far because some later parts of some characters' stories spoil huge plot details that will make going through some other character's stories early on seem redundant because you'll know more than you should.

yeah this is same for suikdoen III

thats why i asked if there is a "best" or correct path ! wher its the most streamless

yes more accesibel than every beore altho the levelling journy isnt as rich or in depth

At first I was depressed since the message was bland by her but my message was bad too so I guess her responding was still a +

gonna do my plan above wait a day or two and then text her how shes feeling and what else I said then after response I going to ask if I can come over on x or y day

if she says no she still sick or whatever then ina be depressed af but I guess we know where I stand then officially : /

okay thanks guys seems like its not like Suikdoen IIIs then and the game will guide you through it

appreciate it

IS there a correct way to go through story or a "best" way?

Like suikoden III the guides here said what is the best pathing to choose for characters and their chapters to get the most of the story in a linear or best pacing to avoid spoiling or the story being unbalanced/uneven so thats why I made this thread

asked this on the board as well but maybe traffic isnt high

plz keep this spoiler free plz

I really want to buy this game due to I hear its amazing story and I love plot heavy jrps

but I heard you can pick and choose characters for the story, and that makes me worried, how will I know whos story to pick to make the story and game as LINEAR as possible? i dont want to play one chaarcter then go back adn start at another chaartcter after finishing one if that makes sense

is there a "correct" path?

Yeah I get that shes not on her phone too much at least when we hang out shes never on her phone

just looking back in December she made a lot more emojis and was more affections thru texts but as chrono says it ebbs and flows but I guess getting a text back
isnt bad

Idk if my message was a response worthy one but yeah idk

im just nit sure at this point shes just trying to be nice

I think Im going to text her back in 2-3 days and follow up with her and see how shes feeling and ask to hangout

@Crono99
@solosnake

she responsed to me this is the last two text messgesb

me Friday night

I think you have a good job you would know more but the people calling off is annoying and your hands being physical tooaltho that one time I still swearr it was overcookeds fault

I feel you, being sick sucks..at least you are slowly getting better now! Once you are better, I can take you out to eat!

her this morning

People calling off definitely gets annoying Im ready for the school year to end so we can switch to the summer stuff. Im slowly getting there I think being in the school makes it harder yo get better when the sickness flies around in there

what do you guys make of this

So shes been sick for 10 days or the like the more I look back at messages the more Im confused

last time we hung out was 19th and then on the 29th she was sick I brought her a care package where she cried (according to her text she double texted me) that week

I guess if I dont hear response from her either

1) never text unless I hear from her

2) wait till Monday night to text her ? I would say hey how was your weeknd are you feeling better? Are the bunny and advocado still in one piece XD

SrRd_RacinG posted...

I see only two options. And they're both long-term.

1. Find a partner who's as anxious as you. It'll be a codependent relationship, but the two styles will (kind of) counterbalance themselves in a dysfunctional way. It can work honestly...but the anxiety will still be there for both parties.

2. Try therapy like your friends say.

You'll certainly want to be better for your next partner. Your therapist will quickly teach you that it's not necessarily the state of the relationship that you want to change/control constantly, rather the state of your own mind.

are you calling this current one over then : /

She never responded to my last text

ant did you read all teh texts in tihs topic?

Anteaterking posted...

I don't want to give you more anxiety but I'm not exactly understanding what your relationship is right now.

Like my last girlfriend was definitely...overly obsessed with me before we started dating, so we text all the time. It wasn't the case that I'd be like "wow she hasn't responded to my text and it's been four hours" but it would have been weird on a regular day to not receive a text from her. But I've known people in very different situations pre-dating.

But I'm also a big texter. Like I text many of my friends on a daily-ish basis. And if I was home sick, I would be even more likely to out of boredom. So what exactly do you consider your current relationship to be? If I was casually dating someone I met on a dating app, I'd probably be a lot more reserved than someone I already knew for a while.

And I'm not asking this to be like "she's not into you bro", but rather to feel out if this is still a non-committal thing on her part (in which case being clingy can do you problems) or if there's been a noticeable downturn.

@Anteaterking

im not sure what it is either, but the last 2 months has been like this where she will respond after work, we have hung out about 10-12x in last two months prolly more maybe. on nights we we hang out after her work she would text a bit more frequent if I had questions or if she was tellign me she had work early or late or when to come over

just the last week shes been sick ( has happened before where she told me she was sick and i had to askl again to see shes feeling better this was like back in dec when we hung out only 1 time)

I dont know what we are i think she likes me I have told her I like her and she says she liked me too but shes also abiig smoker and super chill type of girl.

my one friend that knows her thinks we are stil good ut honestly if we do hang out again proly the 2nd time ima sirt around asking about relationship or if shes ever thought about getting in another one ( last one was long shes more of a seeing only 1 guy typ eof girl)

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if this is the case I will wait until tuesday or monday to text her then if I dont hear form her

my last response tho didnt give her anything to really say right ? the one rom a page ago. so I shoudlmt mental boom if I dont her form her today or tomrrow

solosnake posted...

Girls can kind of sense that insecurity man. Try to put yourself in her shoes for a second. You re probably making her feel a lot of pressure that isnt needed.

@solosnake

dont you think my last text is chill? i agree with some others