Lurker > k1nG_j0hN

Well, do you flirt at all? Is there any teasing or touching?

So what decides our logo and crew?

Sup.

So besides an awkward peck at the end of the 'date', how was this different than any other time you guys hung out as friends? She asked you out, specified that this was a date, yet seems like you offered nothing different in return. She wanted to feel sexy and wanted.

Your second opportunity didn't fare much better (which you're aware of). Maybe she was acting more distant and cold, but think about this: you're the man here, older with presumed experience. It was YOUR house. You had homefield advantage. Was she supposed to hop on your dick in unfamiliar territory? You needed to make her feel comfortable... and, again, sexy and wanted.

Instead, you guys ate and then sat around awkwardly for hours. You didn't have to be pushy about sex but at that point it probably would've been less awkward that what actually happened. But it's not even about the act of sex itself, you just needed to give her SOMETHING. Snuggle, hold hands, rub on her (not there, just even on the arm or shoulder), kiss her cheek/neck/etc. ANYTHING.

Instead, now she'll probably be banging her 20-something-aged flings in the backseat of a car even though they likely have nothing else to offer her and it won't last. If someone wants to be with you, they will move mountains to make it happen. The excuse she gave you was easier for her to say than the actual truth, which is that you were a pussy. But since you are friends (and now clearly just friends) she didn't want to hurt your feelings.

Don't squander your opportunities, man. It sucks and we've all been there. The ones that told you to move on are likely right. Not saying there will never be an opportunity to rectify the situation, but don't sit around thinking about "what if" forever.